Life is Hard: The Beginner’s Guide to Adult Relationships

4. Rejection is always there, and it’s going to feel like a kick in the teeth

You’ll feel rejection. A LOT. In some cases, the clichéd saying “it’s not you, it’s me” rings true. It’s not so much you, but the problem lies with the person rejecting you. It’s going to hurt badly but don’t let it stop you from putting yourself out there. You’re not a precious flower so get over yourself and move on. It’ll all be fine.

3. Maintaining relationships is harder

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You have to make extra effort as an adult to maintain the relationships that you already have. People tend to drift away at this time, whether it’s because of work, family, or other reasons. A person that you used to hang with and get into all sorts of hijinks years ago might not give you the time of day today. That’s fine. Some people are just meant to be a passing scene in your life

If you really want to maintain the relationships that matter, make them feel that they do matter. Try to be a more active presence in their life. Stay in touch with them. Make them feel valued! Cherish the people who are important to you, and make them feel that way.

2. Dating is still hard

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Like leveling up in a role-playing game, dating’s a lot harder when you grow up. Sadly, you can’t cast some magic spell or hack and slash your way to success. Nope, you can’t assign action points to charisma, nor can you change the difficulty level. People change and goals change.

As a teen, dating was all about moving fast, mind games, sex, and the right now. You, as an adult, have no time for games. You prioritize intimacy, savoring the moment and planning for the future. As an adult, you want something real, something for the long haul. You don’t want Netflix and chill, you want Torrent and commitment. The challenge is looking for someone with the same priorities. Stop dating like a kid and start dating for a future. Don’t let your past define you because you’re not going there, you’re going forward. Be honest going into the relationship and don’t be pressured.

Don’t be so uptight and high-strung. More importantly, put yourself out there and try to have fun.
However, never, EVER have sex with your ex. Enough said. Unless, of course, you want to hate yourself.

1. Start loving more

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At the end of the day, it’s you who can make yourself be a better person. Relationships matter more as an adult. So get out there. Give more and expect less. Say please and thank you. Start loving more. You’ll live longer!

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How about you? Got any advice or any experiences worth sharing in being an adultier adult? Put your big person pants on and sound off in the Comments Section!