8 Important Issues Raised
by “Changing Partners”
By Macky Macarayan
“Changing Partners,” Dan Villegas’ award-winning film based on the musical play of the same name by Vincent De Jesus, is a rollercoaster of emotions, with lines sharp as a needle. The film version, written by Lilit Reyes, and featuring the original cast from the play (Agot Isidro, Jojit Lorenzo, Anna Luna, Sandino Martin), raises some very important things we need to talk about.
“Changing Partners” imagines relationship scenarios played out between an older man and a younger woman, an older woman and a younger man, an older man and a younger man and an older woman and a younger woman. The film tells us that intricacies and differences in dynamics aside, the struggles are almost the same. The pain is the same.
People often say that age is just a number, but those people haven’t likely been in a May-December relationship. While it is true that some relationships do work, the inevitability of conflict due to a huge age gap, especially if it’s over 10 years, makes for some irreconcilable differences. Just recall when Sandino Martin had to go on a camping trip with a friend, and Jojit Lorenzo went ballistic because there were no photos in Instagram, which to him seemed dubious.
Outlook on work and stability
Older generations grew up being told that a stable financial life is the key to happiness. Younger generations on the other hand were given more freedom to choose, and as such, are often okay with jumping from one job to the next, or content with part-time jobs, or “raket” for the moment. There’s nothing wrong with both mindsets, but in a May-December affair, a clash of such ideas is guaranteed.
The loss of trust in a relationship often precedes a breakup. When you and your partner can no longer talk to each other freely, something is amiss. Bringing up past mistakes, avoiding the bigger issues, and being emotionally distant are obvious warning signs.