That the Person Crying Bullying
is Actually the Bully
By Tim Henares
In today’s world, where every single act of disagreement can suddenly be painted as “bullying,” it’s become more and more difficult to know exactly who is oppressing who. The answer isn’t always as cut and dried as, say, a Nazi browbeating a Jew (and even that, nowadays, no longer seems so undisputable). Sometimes, it takes a bit of a step back to discover if someone who’s claiming they’re being bullied actually happens to be a bully themselves.
Here are a few signs that things aren’t what they seem, regardless of video virality or successful GoFundMe pages.
8. They think that opposition = bullying.
The reality is, when someone doesn’t agree with us, they’re not bullying us – they’re simply not agreeing with us. The most loud and opinionated people seem to think that they have every right to what they have to say, but are generally shocked when people don’t take too kindly to them.
Newsflash: that right cuts both ways.
7. If they think that bullying is justifiable in “certain” cases.
A recent SWS survey has stated that nine out of ten Filipinos hate cyberbullying. The tenth person is Mocha Uson.
The thing is, people like Mocha (or even PInoy Ako Blog) are often the first people to cry about being oppressed when they practically make a living oppressing other people. Just because one may be more palatable to your political tastes doesn’t make them less guilty of it. They’re merely two sides of the same coin, veracity aside.
The problem is, when we think that because PAB or Mocha are horrible people, then it becomes our right to bully them. No, it isn’t. We are free to tell them where they are wrong. Heck, we can even make jokes at their expense. But there is a reason why Senator De Lima, who clearly will never be on Mocha’s Christmas list, or vice versa, draws the line at slut-shaming Ms. Uson: it’s simply beside the point. You want to harp on her politics, her lying, her inconsistency, her hypocrisy? Sure. But her bedroom antics have zip to do with it. Conversely, doxxing PAB when she wanted to keep her identity private was clearly crossing a line, too. Possibly even a legal one.
In fighting bullies, let us not become that which we despise.
6. They think it’s a numbers game.
When plenty of people are yelling at you for being a d-bag, there’s often a good chance it isn’t because they’re bullying you, so much as most people simply don’t like what you have to say. A lot of bullying tends to be curbed when they quickly realize that they can’t get away with it the way they initially thought they could. It’s also hilarious when the situation is reversed, and they use their numbers to justify their antics, because might makes right and all that. Speaking of which…
5. They willingly turn to the same tactics they cry about when the situation is reversed.
This needs no explanation, does it? If they can’t take the heat, why are they going back to the flamethrower?