Thanks to all the classic romance movies we’ve been exposed to, we can’t help but have expectations bordering on unrealistic when it comes to love. But when we actually stop to reflect on those full-production gestures of affection that we get so “kilig” over, we find that experiencing them in real life is far less appealing.
I mean, would you really want your ex to show up at your doorstep in Christmas with placards declaring his love for you while your spouse is inside like what happened in Love Actually?
There are a lot of truly creepy things that people do in romance movies, and the fault lies in us if we honestly believe these gestures could work with our own crushes and significant others. Here are just a few of them.
Chasing a bus to stop someone from leaving
There are a lot of things wrong with this: 1) you’re inconveniencing other passengers and the driver by delaying the bus, 2) you’re putting yourself at risk for running after a moving vehicle, and 3) if you couldn’t make the person stay before they got on that bus, then what makes you think chasing after them will?
Using a fake chat name to talk to your crush
Recent teen flick Vince & Kath & James starring young loveteam Julia Baretto and Joshua Garcia tried to prove that it’s “cute” to be courted via anonymous text messages. In reality, it’s stalker-ish, manipulative, and dangerous because you can’t say for certain if the person you’re talking to really has interest in you or merely catfishing.
Pursuing someone because of “love at first sight”
Some people believe in love at first sight, but it’s rarely as romantic as depicted in the movies. It’s fine when your thoughts start becoming occupied by a person you just met and are attracted to, but it becomes downright creepy when you start to obsess over that person believing the gods have willed you two to be together.
Getting into a fight with someone you’re jealous of
Willingly engaging in physical fights is not at all attractive. No one wants people getting seriously hurt just because of irrational jealousy. It’s terrifying because it exhibits signs of unhealthy possessiveness and probable future domestic abuse. So nope, Summer getting angry at Tom for punching a guy who was hitting on her at the bar and ultimately ending their whirlwind romance was not a bitchy move at all.