Pros and Cons of Dating Your Co-Worker
By Cel Ortega
Dating a co-worker can both be a wonderful and stressful thing. It can go from one to the other so quickly that it can (and will) end in a total disaster if not handled with care, compassion, and maturity. Such is the reason why most people avoid finding romance within the confines of an office space. But what can you do when love suddenly hits you during office hours?
It will inevitably happen; someone, maybe from another department, will leave you enamored and waltzing between “I want to know you more” and “Let’s not shit where we eat.”
Whichever side you’re leaning towards, it pays to know what it is you need to expect and be prepared for. After all, dating a co-worker isn’t entirely a bad thing, but it isn’t entirely a good thing either. In the end, you get to decide for yourself what’s best for you. In the meantime, here are the pros, cons, and a handful of tips when dating a co-worker.
PRO: You see each other everyday
One of the biggest pros of dating a co-worker is that you’ll never know loneliness. You have someone to get morning coffee with, eat lunch outside with, and walk to the bus terminal with after work. Working overtime hardly becomes a bother now, too.
CON: Everyone knows when you’re not in good terms
Sadly, your relationship is like an open book to your other co-workers. They know when you’ve just had a fight or are not in good terms. But honestly, how can they not know when they see you with a sour face, typing angrily on your keyboard, and trying to avoid looking at the general direction of your lover’s desk?
This is one of the reasons why office relationships can’t work unless both of you are emotionally mature enough to solve personal issues right away. It’s okay to have the occasional tampuhan, but don’t let huge fights turn ugly and unresolved during office hours. No one wants to feel that awkwardness and tension.
PRO: You’re generally more motivated
No more sick leaves and AWOLs; you’ll look forward to coming to work every day, if it means getting to see and be with your partner.
You’ll also become more motivated to work productively because you have someone to encourage you and wish you luck just when you need it.
Being so near your special someone gives you even more things to think about and/or stress over every day. No matter how focused you are on your work, you can’t help but be conscious of your partner’s every move — where they are, who they’re talking to, what they’re doing.
Such distractions can impede your performance, but it isn’t something that is impossible to resolve. Try tuning out from your surroundings by listening to your Spotify productivity playlist or having a Pomodoro timer to keep your attention focused.