Envy is a feeling that we’re all familiar with, but would rather not acknowledge. After all, who would want to admit to feeling jealous of their BFF’s promotion/exotic vacation/new relationship? You know you should be happy for them, and you try to put up a brave front, but deep down, the green-eyed monster is rearing its ugly head, making you feel small, insignificant, and worst of all, resentful of your friend’s success.
Nobody wants to be that jealous friend, so what can you do about it when you catch yourself acting less than enthused at your friends’ good news? Here are a few things to keep in mind to stop being jealous of your friends.
Admit to your envy
Again, jealousy is a perfectly normal emotion that everyone experiences. Your first reaction may be to sweep it under the rug, but this probably won’t work. In fact, obsessing over not feeling jealous may even end up magnifying the problem. Don’t feel guilty for experiencing a completely human response.
Instead, admit that you’re feeling jealous. You don’t have to tell anyone about this; just admit it to yourself. Then, acknowledge your feelings as normal. Only then can you begin processing your emotions in a healthy way and figure out how to stop being jealous of your friends.
Be mindful of your thoughts
Also, examine the thoughts that led up to your self-comparisons. Does your friend’s new relationship make you feel unwanted? Are you worried about the future? Do you feel like you’re stuck in a dead-end job? By asking these difficult questions, you’ll have a better idea of where your jealousy is really coming from.
Take a break from social media
Remember why you’re friends in the first place
See your friend as an inspiration
Focus on improving yourself
Remember that everyone has a unique timeline
Got any problems with envy? Tell us about what you do to stop being jealous of your friends in the comments below!