8 Things to Know About Dating A Born Again Christian Guy
By Meg Santibáñez
Dating someone with a different religion sounds like no big deal, but later on the gravity of this relationship creeps in hard. An inter-faith relationship can be easy to start, but its conclusion might turn sour.
Here are things I learned as a Roman Catholic who had a long term dating phase with a born-again Christian.
8. The weight of open mindedness.
Dating a guy from another religion is where you begin to understand the weight of open mindedness. You will learn beliefs that are foreign to your ears—even concepts which you might strongly disagree with.
Being open-minded isn’t simply the willingness to accept these foreign concepts, but it’s also about finding the right balance in acknowledging these concepts wholeheartedly, but at the same time not entirely espousing them. Sound complicated? It should be.
7. You must take being discreet to another level.
You’ll learn how to temper your words with discretion. No, kidding. A single phrase void of prudence can result in a flurry of arguments. It’s fine to misunderstand other things, just not religious beliefs, because that’s a stab in the heart that’s hard to forget.
6. Sundays can be…complicated.
The thought of attending another church sounds easy, but it’s totally not. Talk about a fish out of water. Trust me, it just won’t feel right.
5. Talking about progeny.
Wishful thinking is fun as a couple, but the last thing you’d want to discuss with your partner from another religion is the prospect of having a child. There is no way you won’t discuss what that child’s religion will be. Which church will the child be even baptized? The prospect of having a child could increase religious tension.
4. Parents will interfere.
You’re lucky if your parents are also willing to exert the same effort of discretion and open mindedness. More often than not, they won’t and will sometimes go out of their way to discourage more dating. The pressure will always be on, increasing the tension.
3. You will be scrutinized.
Both of you will experience being crucified, especially when these external voices are void of effort and sacrifice that you had to overcome to make the relationship possible.
2. You can’t convert each other.
You can’t convert your partner to your religion. Period. You might think you think alike, but nope you don’t.
1. It can be a deal-breaker.
The relationship might be maintained and doable in the short-term, but once you start doubting your own beliefs, that’s the cue that you need to pull out. At the end of the day, if you don’t convert or he doesn’t, you’ll realize that you value your faith better.
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