What We Love About
the Love/Hate Relationship
That is Sibling Rivalry
By Kyzia Maramara
If you have siblings your childhood must have been peppered with fights with them, insulting each other, blaming-throwing, and the occasional framing them for things you did *wink*. It’s not as bad as it sounds; in fact it’s a normal relationship! Some siblings have it nice, they’re all lovey-dovey sweet and protective but it’s just a rough life for others.
But even though there’s a difference, even if you admit it or not, whether you fight with your siblings or you’re too kind to them, there will always be the same bond. The same bond that came from sharing the same blood, and that’s what makes you endure everything. (Frankly that’s what also makes your parents endure everything.)
The bond doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship will be easy. You might fight with your sibs a lot but you actually love your relationship with them. Uyyyy aminin! And here are the reasons why:
1. You can always borrow (steal) their clothes
It’s an open secret that you often borrow-slash-steal your sibs’ clothes without their permission. And why not? If you really needed to go to that party and the appropriate cool kid attire could be found in your older sister’s closet, of course you’d take it. The downside is you have to sneak back home late at night wrapped in a jacket so she can’t see. In the most likely event that she find out there will be war.
Note: Also includes encouraging them to buy pretty things that fit you so you can borrow-slash-steal in the future.
2. You have a person you can play practical jokes with for the rest of your life
Is your brother about to get in the shower? Race him to it even if you have no intention of showering yet! Your little sister is alone in the house and you’re home early? Jump scare her!
I once knew a brother who decided to prank his sister. The young girl had a gash on her knee from playing and her brother came to her and told her the wound will heal up quickly if she poured alcohol on it. And so being naïve and young she did as she was told and her brother slinked into the darkness with a huge smile on his face.
These sort of things you won’t ever let each other forget and you will forever try to out-do each other’s pranks.
3. They witness your most embarrassing moments but you have a lot to reminisce when you get older
Siblings are always there in every milestone and embarrassing moment in your life even if you didn’t want them there. More often than not they take receipts of your most embarrassing moments. The time you slipped at a mall? They’ll take a photo and laugh real hard before helping you up. You might get annoyed but these are actually good moments to look back on when you get older.
4. They’re your worst enemy and your most loyal comrade
Sure you might fight with them to no end and even make them cry but if other people do this to them, all hell will break loose. You will fight tooth and nail with people that deal wrongly with them. Heck, they don’t have the right to do that, only you can do that! When that sparkling moment of loyalty and love coming from defending your sibling fades, you’re back to slightly bullying them every chance you get because, you know, you’re a tough cookie without feelings.
5. You appreciate them more as you grow older and one day you will be struck by how much they’ve grown
As much as you would want to stay as a child or in your teenage years you can’t. We all have to move on and advance in our years. Growing old with your siblings lessens the squabbling and bullying you pull on each other and increases your affection and dependency on each other. One day you’ll find yourself struck by how much they’ve grown and wishing you were young again. It may sound so tita but most definitely true.
6. They post cheesy messages and pictures on your wall on your birthday
In person you might not be as sweet but every birthday you strive to post a sweet birthday message for your sibling. You even go the length of looking for a photo where you look half-way sweet. You certainly can’t say to their face that you love them but you can post it for the entire world to see. It counts as a legit ‘I love you,” I guess?
7. The brief moments of serious conversations about life
Life isn’t all rainbows and butterflies; there are also hurdles and hardships you’ll encounter. When you do fall into that pit of despair or a stressful problem, it might surprise you that your sibling is concerned and will give you their two cents. Underneath all that bravado of fighting with you, they love you and are concerned for your well-being. Sometimes the best advices even come from them because they know you so well.
8. Safe to say we all love our siblings underneath it all
Even if you won’t admit it to their face, your siblings are one of the best parts of your life. They say romantic relationships can end but friendships last forever but a sibling relationship is infinite times better than a friendship. Your brothers and sisters know the real you from being around you literally since you were born. Enjoy every moment with your siblings because time flies fast and we don’t want you regretting!
Tag your siblings in the comments below and tell them how you appreciate them!